let's make a date?

when did dating die? when did we start accepting less from the opposite sex? how did we all get hurt in the mist of trying to find love?

who do we blame? the men? women?

holding hands. long talks. the innocence.
are all these times extinct?

it seems that at a younger age we were more optimistic about love and relationship, that our prince charming and sleeping beauty were out there waiting for us to find them.

when did we all get hurt? and like a venus fly trap our immediate response is to close our hearts making it difficult for the next person.

why are there more questions and not enough answers?

short.hair.don't.care.

meet fo.
fo has short hair.
fo is beautiful.
and even though fo didn't win top model.
fo is fab-ulous.

in my research to discover why long hair is fawned over by both men and women. i stumbled over these theories.

"long hair requires substantial commitment of money, time, and daily care. such factors would indicate that a woman has a good financial status, self-respect, and concern forher overall health and well being. men may find longer-haired women more attractive because these characteristics are desirable qualities in a partner."

"longer hair helps to disguise less desirable features. long hair tends to make the jaw line slimmer and less prominent and draws attention away from undefined cheekbones. also, as described bymany men, long hair also contributes to a more feminine and youthful appearance."

so what does this say about women that prefer to their hair short?
→they are less attractive?
→more masculine?
→lack the ability to commit?

the characteristics can apply to anyone.

as a female that wears her hair short. i find many women find short hair [liberating]
going against the status quo of b.e.a.u.t.y
offering a new definiton to what is seen as aesthetically pleasing.

this woman has time to focus on things other than her hair such as, her career and romance. she is fearless. and does not hide behind hair hoping it will camouflage her imperfections. instead she embraces them.

hair does not make or break you. in the end hair is protein filament that grows through the epidermis from follicles deep within the dermis. --thx wikipedia.

never conform.
if you have long hair be proud.
if you have short have stand proud.
we are all beautiful.

and she has freckles.

lessons.to.lessen.the.pain.

why do we condemn ourselves to the heartbreak of relationships?

people beg for us to open up and be vulnerable. so we let them into our lives, just to prove what you already believed about human nature.
we tell our life stories.
we let them see us at our darkest hour.
to be betrayed.
let down.

why?
why date?
what's the point of it all?

don't we date to get married. no one at my age is ready for that type of commitment.

we fill ourselves up on other people's insecurities. gluttons for heartache. asking for heartbreak.

why should i be punished for saving myself from more agony and disappointment.
why should i be criticized for being introverted.
can you blame me for not wanting to converse with the enemy.

so much.so much to say.

how do we recover?
just close back up?
make it harder for the next person.
close up tigher?
become a brick wall.
learn?
allow ourselves to be placed in the same position.