for many it's the proverbial season for love. winter cuddling melts away and the heart seeks something warmer to comfort it. so as women we pull out our spring arsenal: the shorts and mini skirts reemerge into our wardrobe. but before falling head over heels into a field of flowers there are three specific men to be careful with this season:
7 for 1 deal: Guy in a Group
[this includes room mates, frat brothers or a guy with a massive number of bffs] just as guys don't like when girls listen to their friends opinions. it seems even more troubling for a girl to know her guy is receiving additional commentary from people outside the relationship.
→ date-ability: the fact that he can maintain friendships shows he is capable of nourishing a relationship and exhibits his loyalty. no one ever wants to feel as though they will always come in 8th place to friends. it takes a level of confidence and patience to overcome these feelings. a couple has to be able to balance their time together and their time away from each other. when the scale begins to tip either the partner or the patnas (tehe) will end up with the short end of the stick.
Glitter is Not Always Gold: All for the Swag
this guy is usually always f.r.e.s.h H2T (head to toe). he will be easy to spot- the guy decked out like the new years ball.
→ date-ability: you could be dealing with someone with an overactive ego. these guys are usually compensating for something they believe they lack or any other internal struggle. from my experience these guys are actually very misunderstood and their outward appearance intimidates others and in result generates negative backlash. or you could really be dealing with a jerk. be careful. look out for the signs. these guys are attracted greatly to a woman with confidence to compliment his style, so if this is the guy you want. stand straight. arms back. and strut.
Mr. Everything
more obvious to spot than the swagster is mr. everything. he is in 10 different places at once (head of the student government. aiding a friend. volunteering. doing the dishes. you get the picture) he is incredible everyone loves him and knows his name. sounds too good to be true right...well maybe.
→date-ability: when you date someone like this it can bring you into the spotlight right along with him, which have negative or positive response. (especially for those of not use to the limelight) this boost catapults you into popularity. people will know you for being with "him". you have to be ready for the scrutiny that comes along with the new found observers. they can be nice they can be mean, but know they are watching every move you make. so you put your best foot forward. my best advice is to be charming. let them see what a good person you are by yourself, with others and especially with your man. because know that the many of his "friends" could also be his "admirers". so what is equally important is to be able to convey confidence in the relationship.
→ so if you don't get anything out of this post remember that a little confidence goes a long way ←
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