love. check.

people have their preferences: some like chocolate over vanilla; their eggs scrambled instead of fried; and sapphires to diamonds. so it comes as no surprise that we all would develop a particular liking to a certain type of person.

but could this be helpful or harmful when searching for a relationship partner?

through trial and error we generate a scheme of the "perfect mate"

this person:

→ dresses a certain way →talks a certain way →acts a certain way

but i wonder if we gravitate towards these types of people are we merely dating the same person over and over again? which eventually leads to the dissipation of the relationship, and then we are on the next one.

we all know no persons are alike and not ever tall, brown-skin guy that likes to work-out will be forget to call/txt every hour of the day, but i'm still inclined to wonder if this isn't one of the reasons we end up heartbroken.

there is nothing wrong with having a preference, but there is something wrong when we become restricted in our capacity to try something new. what we want isn't always what we need. when we limit ourselves to only one type of person we cheat ourselves out of love and finding someone that is complementary to our personalities.

we assume this person is really is who we want. but how many times have we tried something that looks good but leaves a [b i t t e r] after taste.

it frustrates me when i hear

i only date "this" type of person

you assume that "that" type of person wants someone like you.

find someone that cares about you and that you care about.

money. status. looks are all secondary--and fleeting. search a person inside and out.

or maybe try